Realigning Your Realm

Memoirs From The Grove

There is something women are taught to apologize for.

Changing our minds. Pivoting. Deciding that what we built no longer fits the woman we are becoming right now. We always seem to preface it with “I know this might seem inconsistent, but…”

And yet, changing your mind is one of the most powerful things you can do.

Recently I made a few decisions like these:

• I decided to make The Grove free for my members

• I decided to expand The Grove even further into a podcast so my community can read as well as listen to my work (announcement coming next week)

• I evolved some of my branding in a direction that reflects who I am rather than who I was

When I decided to open up The Grove and make it free, it wasn’t because of some random strategy. It was because something in me knew that the container I had created needed to live differently. As time went on, I fell out of alignment with it being a paid offer. Groves are free by nature, and the women who need them most need them to be accessible.

So when I felt the nudge, I didn’t hesitate. I acted within the same day. That is the feminine principle of action. Not the masculine drive to execute a plan, but the feminine gift of knowing before knowing why.

The Bravery Inside the Pivot

Here is something we don’t really talk about enough - it takes real courage to change your mind publicly.

To say, this thing I built with intention, I’m now going to do differently. Just because. Because the woman you are now needs something the woman you were then couldn’t see.

We tend to only celebrate pivots in hindsight. “It worked because she trusted her intuition.” But in the moment of the pivot?

It can feel like standing in the middle of a forest and trying to walk a path that you are also simultaneously clearing.

Every woman reading this has had that moment. The knowing that something needs to change. The offer, the relationship, the living room, the position of the bed.

The question isn’t whether you feel it in your intuition, but whether you’ll let yourself act on it.

The Smallest Things Change Everything

You don’t always need a dramatic overhaul.

Before I mentioned that I just changed some of my branding. A font. That’s it. The weight of a letter, and suddenly my brand is starting to feel more like me. The mythic old world meeting the beautiful, modern woman that I am.

I am not the same person who built this business three years ago. Our creative work has to evolve with us. Sometime we underestimate the power of the small rearrangements.

So, move your bed. Paint a wall. Change the handle on the cabinet you’ve been quietly resenting.

These are acts of realm building.

And women (particularly women who are building businesses that are extensions of who they are) have an extraordinary sensitivity to their environment. We feel the misalignment of spaces before we can even name it.

When we shift something in our physical world, something in our inner world responds. The home becomes yours again. The brand becomes yours again. You become yours again.

You Are Allowed to Evolve Into Her

If you’ve been holding back a change because you’re worried about how it looks, I want to offer you this.

The divine feminine has always been about cycles. Our seasons are a reflection of death and rebirth. The moon doesn’t apologize for its phases, and water doesn’t ask permission to change course.

Women carry this in the body. We are literally built around this natural and ancient wisdom. Changing your mind isn’t a failure of conviction.

It is evidence that you are alive to yourself.

I trust what I’m becoming. You are allowed to do that too.

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